Timeline: 2019 – Wife says she’s having gay feelings. We watch Gentleman Jack. 2020 – Wife is a-twitter about a pretty lady on the other side of the country. They meet. They are in love. Said pretty lady isn’t psyched about wife having a husband (me), but that’s to be expected, maybe. 2021 – I…

We tell people to be themselves, that there’s nothing wrong with who they are, etc. Of course this is all quite dishonest and we say it more to make ourselves feel good than to actually help other people. Here is my very not scientifically determined list of a few relatively common personal oddities, in decreasing…

Guess I’m poly, indeed. I might not have any other relationships, but the family gets to accommodate DP’s other partner. Vacation scheduling, childcare, etc. I’m probably not in the best state of mind to write. I’m tired. I got a minor (I hope) injury a week ago–pulled a back muscle–and I feel lousy. Had some…

DP is spinning through an identity crisis. Upshot: maybe she identifies as genderqueer, now. I haven’t thought much about this label but sure, it fits as much as any other. She doesn’t identify with many (if any) traditional “feminine” characteristics. I am perhaps the only thing in her life that requires any “feminine” behavior or…

I’m exploring the interesting world of polyamory. Reading books. Reading discussion forums. Messaging a couple of pretty fascinating people (very far away; nice and safe). I’m noticing a recurring theme, possibly because it seems to fit my situation. Persons A and B enter into a long-term committed relationship, generally marriage. This relationship is implicitly or…

A rundown of the events of the past 15 years that led to my situation here and now. Upshot: dude marries lady with unresolved sexual identity issues. 12 years of marriage with some serious problems. Lady rediscovers her love for women. Things get better, worse, and weirder.